How would you describe love? Most people talk about love as a feeling; a strong, positive emotion directed at another person. However it can be more constructive to consider love as a verb or action word. Then love is defined by our actions towards the people we love. This helps us take more responsibility for our behaviours towards the people we are close to. It becomes more difficult to blame, criticise, shout at or shame our loved ones if love is seen in terms of our actions. Get in the habit of asking yourself "Is this behaviour loving?" Seeing love in this way can help us to improve our close relationships.